Resilient families during a pandemic

DR DERRICK FOSTER

Families become stronger by working through difficult times. Life can be tough, and covid19 proved this as the world was unprepared to deal with the negative effects of the virus. Nevertheless, whether times are good or bad, being a part of a strong, supportive and resilient group is important to our wellbeing. Family structures vary. Some, like the nuclear category, consist of two parents and their offspring. Others are larger, including grandparents, aunts or uncles and are extended versions. Some have only a mother or a father, not both, along with children. Yet again, siblings occasionally band together and form a unit in the absence of their parents. Lastly, through adoption a house can be established as people take someone else’s child as their own. Adjusting to challenges while remaining optimistic about a brighter future are trademarks of a solid family.

During socio-economic disruptions, households can get creative and remain functional. Tobago largely depends on tourism as a source of revenue. However, guest houses and hotels are experiencing less traffic with travel restrictions to the islands resulting in downsizing for some establishments. Food, clothing and shelter remain important to households operating on a smaller budget. To maximise resources, some creativity is needed. For example, home-cooked meals can be substituted for take-out food. Additionally, garments can be worn for longer periods or crafted as a do-it-yourself (DIY) project. Finally, postpone household renovations where possible until the cash flow increases, or get handy and do repairs within reason. By using a strategic approach, families are sustained, with their basic needs being met on a lean budget.

Families can use cheer, hope and optimism like bridges over troubled waters. Ancient literature announced, everything has a season. People are reminded that no situation will last forever, instead, change is inevitable. Believing this principle, families can remain hopeful even during a pandemic. No expert can pronounce an expiration date for the destructive virus but confidence declares, “This will pass.”

The human mind is powerful and if parents believe they can make it, their children become filled with merriment. The year 1963 marks a dark period for Tobago as Hurricane Flora devastated the island's economic activity and therefore, livelihood. However, 57 years later, communities radiate progress, reflecting Tobagonians' flexibility and adaptability to harsh conditions. Households can benefit in stormy seasons, once people adopt a positive attitude.

People form relationships but fire cements them. Likewise, events are sometimes unpredictable but defeat is optional. Defeat is influenced by thoughts and attitudes toward opposition, mirroring the familiar statement: attitude determines altitude. Champions are not people who never faced hardship, rather they overcame. They used a negative situation as an opportunity to grow and success was their reward. In this twin island state, people continue to adjust to their new circumstances like social distancing and very careful spending. Families, however, remain the bedrock of society.

Dr Derick Forrester is the Manager of the Children and Family Services Unit, under the Division of Health, Wellness and Family Development, Tobago House of Assembly.

Phone: 639- 3395 ext. 47211 / 47212 / 47213

Website: www.dhwfd.gov.tt

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