Nareeda Ali’s journey as a Muslim

BAVINA SOOKDEO

“Islam liberates us as Muslim women. I love my Islam so much because to me it makes so much sense and it is so complete.”

For Nareeda Ali, a 40-year-old teacher, wife, mother, community leader, and counsellor, Islam is not just a religion – it is the foundation upon which she has built a fulfilling and purposeful life.

As Eid-ul-Fitr approaches, Ali spoke to Newsday on her journey as a Muslim woman balancing multiple roles while staying deeply connected to her faith.

Holder of a bachelor of education degree with first-class honours, Ali is also certified in child psychology, marriage counselling and stress, and anger management from the National Islamic Counselling Services.

Born and raised in Dow Village, California, Couva, she grew up in a close-knit, Muslim family with her parents, Rasheed and Jennifer Ali, and her two older sisters, Nadia and Narisa.

Her early love for Islam was nurtured by her standard one teacher Imam Clyde Ali who played a significant role in shaping her spiritual foundation through his weekly religious instruction class at California Government Primary School.

“I was always most present for his sessions, and he would allow me to research and present to the class,” she recalled.

It was the iman who first learnt of her decision to wear the hijab at just 11 years old. While her mother was initially hesitant, both her parents supported her decision.

“Alhamdulillah, I still wear my hijab today. It has become my identity.”

Quite the "tomboy," Ali rode her bicycle throughout her community.

“I truly believe in the statement: ‘It takes a village to raise a child.’ In the village, where I still presently reside, we all live as one family, regardless of race or religion.”

Growing up in a diverse village where a masjid, church, and temple stood in close proximity, Ali was raised with profound respect for all religions.

“We were always taught by our parents the importance of love and respect for all,” she said, emphasising how this upbringing continues to shape her own children.

Throughout her life, Ali’s faith has provided her with solace and strength, particularly in times of hardship. The passing of her father in 2010 was an immense loss, made bittersweet by the birth of her first son, Naeem, the very next day.

“In that time of pain and sadness, simultaneously we were granted ease and happiness. SubhanAllah (Glory be to God).”

Tragedy struck again when she suffered a stillbirth with her second son Abdur Rahmaan. It was her unwavering faith that kept her grounded. She holds on to the words of Prophet Muhammad:

“When a child dies, Allah asks his angels, ‘Have you taken the life of the child of My servant?’ If the parents praised Allah and said, ‘Inna lillahi wa inna ilayhi raji’oon’ (To Allah we belong and to him we will return), Allah says, ‘Build a house for My servant in Paradise and call it
Bayt-ul-Hamd (House of Praise).’”

Her faith was tested once more when her mother lost her battle with cancer in 2023, an experience Ali described as indescribable pain. However, she remained steadfast in her belief that life is fleeting and that the way one lives determines their fate in the hereafter.

Asked what being a Muslim woman in today’s world means to her, Ali shared that she takes pride in her identity – not just by her hijab but through her actions, interactions, and character.

“Many of my non-Muslim friends are always amazed when I tell them about Islam. Prayer, for example – as Muslims we pray five times daily. These prayers (
salah) are done at different times throughout the day, so whatever is going on in our lives, we stop at that point and refocus on our lord knowing that we can rely on him for the help and guidance we need.

"We are in the month of Ramadan, where we fast from dawn to dusk. Scientists are now telling us about the benefits of fasting for the human body. In this world, the Holy Qu'ran remains my light and my Prophet Muhammad remains my inspiration and guide.”

Despite common misconceptions about Muslim women, Ali emphasised that her hijab is a symbol of strength and liberation. “The pearl that is most precious is covered and kept safe in its shell. This is how I feel wearing my hijab – precious, covered, and safe.”

The mother of three, a standard three teacher at San Fernando ASJA Primary School, usually has a packed day.

“Balancing all my roles and responsibilities can be very challenging at times, but I love it.”

She sees herself as her children’s first teacher, emphasising the importance of leading by example.

“I do believe that actions speak louder than words and so, I always try to practise what I say. I always try to give my best to students in my class. I believe that once teachers and parents work together, the students will be successful.”

Ali feels privileged to be a part of the ASJA family.

“It's an honour to be able to teach at one of their schools.

“At our ASJA schools, we pride ourselves in preparing the next generation of young leaders who are academically, spiritually and morally grounded. I'm pleased to teach at an institution where I can get the opportunity to teach Islam and perform my
salah when I need to. Teaching is the one profession that makes all other professions possible. Hats off to all my colleagues in education.”

Ali’s role as a community leader and counsellor is equally demanding. Having worked with the National Islamic Counselling Services and at the Munroe Road and Esperanza mosque she said, “We live in a very cruel world and many times you are the only one a person trusts. This, we cannot take for granted. I truly believe that if someone comes to you for assistance, it becomes your responsibility to help where you can.”

Despite her packed schedule, Ali credits her husband, Stefan Ramasar, for his unwavering support. Ramasar embraced Islam at 17 after seeking answers about life and destiny.

“Without the love and support of my dear husband, this really would not have been possible. When I’m busy at the masjid or in the community or at school he is always there at my side to assist, advise or just listen to me. For this, I’m eternally grateful."

Offering advice to her fellow Muslim sisters, Ali emphasised the importance of compatibility in marriage.

“Finding a partner who is understanding, kind, and supportive is essential. Being married to your best friend is truly a blessing from God Almighty.”

As an executive member of the Dow Village and Esperanza ASJA mosque, Ali is deeply involved in community and youth empowerment initiatives. She also offers lectures and mental health sessions for young Muslim girls. From organising religious workshops to spearheading youth programmes, her work fosters unity and growth.

“We recently opened the Haji Imam Ahamad Ali Aziz Library and Learning Centre, equipped with books, desktops, and printing equipment for community use.”

The centre is open every day and available for use for any child or member who may want to use it.

Her mosque also hosts an annual walkathon – the 2025 edition is on May 25 with the theme, Steps of Unity: Walking for Jannah. Ali believes in inclusivity and ensures all community members – regardless of religion or race – feel welcome.

On the challenges faced by Muslim youth today, Ali cited Islamophobia due to negative stereotypes and societal pressures amplified by social media.

“The rise of social media has intensified societal pressures related to beauty, success, and lifestyle choices, sometimes clashing with our Islamic values.

“The wearing of the hijab, for example, is a lifetime decision. I wear my hijab to please my lord as it is a direct command from him. Many people feel that Muslim women are oppressed but I beg to differ. My hijab not only gives me an identity; it also protects me. I don’t have to lower my standards and expose my body and degrade myself. With my hijab…I feel liberated.”

Ali shared a heartfelt message with the Muslim community: “May this special day bring you endless joy, peace, and blessings. Let’s remember the beauty of our Islam, the power of kindness, and the importance of unity.”

She urged Muslims to reflect on their purpose and keep Allah at the centre of their lives. “May we never forget that our purpose on this earth is to worship Almighty Allah. Everything else comes after.”

Ali plans to spend Eid-ul-Fitr by going to the masjid, offering prayers, giving charity and spending time with family and friends.