Sandrine Rattan writes a weekly column for the Newsday called With Women In Mind.
“There is only one happiness in this life; to love and be loved.” - George Sand
The simple four-letter word, love, continues to be hard-hitting for many despite the proclamation of being one of the easiest and softest remedies for a peaceful existence.
Many of our clients at the International Women’s Resource Network (IWRN) have often expressed difficulty about their views and/or feelings on love. Love starts within the womb. From conception, mothers begin the process of love which continues to eternity. For reasons known and unknown, there seems to be challenges in both finding and expressing love which is such a beautiful thing. I would not trade it for anything else in the world.
The truth is if you were never loved in your formative years, chances of unearthing and even expressing love become extremely mind-boggling, even into adulthood. It is even more distressing if you don’t understand your attitudes. True love is not about envy, being self-serving nor boastful, but rather a healthy feeling that makes you give when you don’t feel like it. Love is about humility, willingness and a mindset to navigate through life’s good and bad times. Through my work, I am finding more and more that people continue to search for love in all the wrong places.
The continued advancement in technology has a major role to play in the way we now interact with each other even while co-existing in the same space. At almost every level including family, we find greater comfort in communicating through cell phone apps instead of face-to-face interaction, with the new normal excuse that “we’re so very busy.” Relationships continue to crumble as the hugs and “I love you” have been replaced by technology. I have witnessed many incidents where parents find it difficult to tell their children “I love you” and vice-versa; husbands and/or wives are tight-lipped about openly expressing their love for each other. These are just some of the unfortunate situations which have contributed to us being in the place we are today. Research has identified some key factors that influence one’s inability to express love; the fear of rejection, thinking that you should be liked by everyone, fear of ruined friendships and an inferiority complex which borders on insecurity.
A renewed way of feeling and sharing love must begin with the parenting process that begins from the womb. This ensures that the new generation of human beings would be fully equipped with loads of love which can be shared in the world. The most recent case, worth emulating, is world-renowned tennis superstar Serena Williams who was seen in some videos “womb-loving” her daughter. This is something that she continues to do even after the birth of her child. That child, no doubt, would be fed with an adequate amount of love which can be imparted to others as she progresses through life. Let’s just spread the love.
Sandrine Rattan is a communications & branding consultant/author/empowerment builder and president of the International Women’s Resource Network (IWRN) Contact: firstname.lastname@example.org or email@example.com Tel: 283-0318