|G’ morning, gorgeous! How important is that early morning message? |
Sunday, August 6 2017
I’m sure many of you faithful readers of the Girlfriends column, if only for a brief moment, may have wondered how do I moderate these successful, opinionated, loud, argumentative (in a good way of course), fun, flirty, sexually liberated and open minded women, enough that I’m able to pull together a couple hundred words (that kinda makes sense) for you to digest? To be honest, sometimes when I open my what’s app and scroll to our group chat and I see 300 plus messages, I take a deep breath and mentally prepare for the verbal onslaught of whatever topic we’re discussing. The constant usually being that I get to decide what topics we focus on.
This week they cut me to the chase, as one morning (before 9 o’ clock too eh), hundreds of messages poured in over an innocent enough question – how important is the “Good morning” text. You know the text I’m talking about, the early morning message (text, WhatsApp, Facebook, IG, Google chat etc etc etc) from someone who makes your heart race a little when that notification goes off, especially if it usually happens around a certain time each day. It’s usually just a simple, “good morning beautiful” or the generic “Have a great day hun”, but to us women, the underlying meaning is so much deeper… or is it really? Does a good morning text really mean the object of your desire cares that much more (or less) for you? The Girlfriends sound off below.
Tats: Morning fab women. Here’s a silly question. Was having this convo with a client this morning. Is it important for us to get acknowledgement from a close male companion, specifically lil texts if possible during the day? He sends you a lil kiss emoji or a simple good morning/good night... no long talk needed... but just a lil check in every so often when possible? Do you ladies care for such things or you don’t see it as important?
Mel: Nah I like a good morning message. It’s says you thought of me but not every everyday… doh mind I eh get one this morning and I toting!!!!!!!
Tats: I was telling my client that I’m a sucker for an unexpected “hey you” in the middle of the day, I like knowing that I cross that someone’s mind.
Mel: Yeah well I guess I’m a sucker too.
Tats: Lord and please respond at some point... not immediately... to any text I may send!
Mel: Like us girls, we doh see each other often but look how close we are as a group because of exactly that. One of us always here to answer another, kinda also means that one human can’t satisfy another cause it is like 10 ah we in here, hahahaha!
Mel: But Yuh see blue ticks? For someone who is ya nearest and dearest, nah, unacceptable especially when a VN takes two seconds to send!
Tats: If I’m real busy... can’t find time to think straight, I will still find 5 seconds to reach out to a special someone, even if to say... “Babe real busy, can’t talk but hope you having a good one, TTYL.”
Kimba: I think it’s important. A little “good morning” or a “how’s the day sugar”, small gestures go a long way. But also we ladies should understand the etiquette as when to send our own version of this text. I mean first thing in the morning, sure, but you see 10 am on a Monday when you know they have a meeting and then vex when they don’t respond.
Some people do that crap, ‘well let’s see if they answer at the busiest point of their day.’ That’s BS, you setting yourself up for disappointment. To me it’s natural to touch base with your loved one at least once for the day.
Ronz: I like a lil good morning or some sort of greeting. It’s nice to be thought of.
Martie: I have varying responses cause there’s no blanket answer. Firstly, yes. I do agree that a lil message at least once a day, does go a long way. A phone call? Even better.
It’s a simple touch base. Personally, I like a lil more than one.
Now, I also believe that some men take hints for granted and some “play the game” well. There are men who know that women like this, so they do it, for doing sake. Not because they’re genuinely thought of her. I also believe in “equality”.
So yuh see how we like the lil notes? So we send them too.
But don’t not respond to me. Don’t send me a message back nah... you will suck salt for a day or two. Trust me, they notice when you’ve “gone missing”. You could see them every day, and that lil message not there? Suddenly they miss it, I does have my go to reply ready for that? “Oh gosh, hon, I just figured you were busy and didn’t want to disturb you” I would type while rolling my eyes.
Tamz: I like them
Martie: Talking bout text etiquette, when they msg, Doh get overly excited lol, your reply should be cool and easy easy, for example text / reply should be: Hey = Hey, lol Hi = Hi / Hey, lol You’re good babe = Yeah I’m good. You? Not: “Hey” = Awww Heyyyyyy Not “Hi” = Hiiiiiiiiiii
Rors: I know too many women who can’t reign it in…
Martie: Cuz after you get excited and get no more than that, then yuh sour
Rors: He send 1 msg and dem gone with a longggggg paragraph…
Martie: Instead of being happy with the lil message yuh lookin for whole day…
Rors: From the time they come crying showing you the convo... well hunny you went wrong from the _ rst 10 sentences that you respond to his “whoa”…
Staci: Talking about texting, have y’all heard about Sarahah?
Ronz: What is this app? Since yesterday I’m seeing it all over.
Staci: It’s the no 1 trending app right now, it means honest in Arabic and it lets users anonymously post what they think of someone on their profile.
Ronz: Geez, like we doh have enough of those out there already?
Staci: To me, it’s like who cares what people think about you anyway? Especially when it’s anonymous you know for sure people coming out bats swinging to be stink and stinker and tell you everything they been wanting to since forever.
De_ nitely a not need to know basis with this one.
Staci: And don’t forget for men to be as pervy and creepy without the guilt - no name no shame!
Ronz: Sounds like a horrible app on so many levels.
Kimba: I actually just warned some parents of teenagers in my Alma Mata parent’s group. Just think of the kids and teenagers using this and you know where that’s gonna go!
Ronz: People need to start using their talents and skills for better purposes. If you have something to say to me then say it to my face if you feel it necessary to do so but hell, an app that allows people to just be their worst most awful selves? No bueno!
Staci: The bullying I foresee eh especially with young people, this could be another recipe for a suicide attempts sad to say.
Martie: I agree. Why is it that someone thought it was a good idea though, unlike our initial discussion of cute “good morning gorgeous” messages, this app and the potential messages on it could do way more harm than good!
The Girlfriends is a group of 15 women between the ages of 26 - 45 who are willing to give an unadulterated look into their own experiences. Some names have been changed for privacy.