|Build your resilience |
WITH WOMEN IN MIND By Sandrine Rattan Tuesday, January 10 2017
I am the master of my fate and the captain of my destiny - Nelson Mandela
THE on-going pressures and challenges of daily living are sufficient to weaken the strongest, if their wheel of resilience is in itself weak.
There are many, who depend on the world for strength which, though not necessarily a bad thing is not the ideal for one’s co-existence, as survival begins and ends with you. Resilience is the process of adapting well when faced with untimely circumstances such as trauma and/or significant incidents of stress such as family/ relationship/health issues. Being resilient does not mean that one is devoid of difficulty or distress, it means that with a resilient cap, you are more equipped to handle such situations effectively, because we are all human and therefore cannot always be at our best when challenges knock at our door.
Understand that resilience is not a characteristic that a person has or do not have, but rather, particular behaviours and attitudes that can be learnt and developed over time.
Developing resilience is a special skill which should always be part of one’s survival toolkit. The “how” is personal to each individual as the reaction and/ or response to various situations differs based on orientation and mindset. Start by making connections with people (including family members who can add value to your vision, as well strengthen your personal capacity). Avoid viewing crises and traumatic situations as unconquerable because in life nothing is impossible! Whilst you may be unable to change and/or control the occurrence of stressful events, you can definitely control and manage the way you respond.
Many are afraid of change, but keep in mind that change is inevitable and a part of life. Learning to accept things that can’t be change is a good place to start in assisting you to focus on circumstances that you’re able to change.
Focus on achieving your goals – short, medium and longterm; this helps to concentrate more on yourself, and less on the distractions that affect your resilience levels. Once you’re confronted with a problem, attempt to find solutions as opposed to hoping that it would disappear; being decisive and assertive is critical in challenging times.
Always maintain a positive outlook as you and only you can effect the change that you want in your life; be confident in your ability and also nurture a positive mindset.
Building resilience as a platform to enhance one’s self-esteem, is one of the many social issues which will be addressed at the Conference - “The Power Within: Love your body, love you” on January 26. Book your space now – call us at 638-1083, 268- 6078 and 684-6982.
To obtain a copy of the book With Women in Mind call 283- 0318 or 795-9531.
Sandrine Rattan is a Communications/ Branding Consultant/ Author and President of the International Women’s Resource Network (IWRN) Contact: thecorporatesuitett@ gmail.
com or intlwomensresourcenetwork@ gmail.com