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Thursday, January 5 2017
Love in business sounds corny doesn’t it? Does love belong in the workplace? Should we even consider love when thinking about our careers, that new position, starting a business of our own? Many gurus tell us that we need to do what we love and therein we will find our purpose. I think that the recommendation is misleading. “Find something more important than you are,” philosopher Dan Dennett once said in discussing the secret of happiness, “and dedicate your life to it.” But how, exactly, do we find that?
I’m sure you’re all familiar with the name tests on Facebook that tell us a host of things from who are our best friends, who is our soulmate, what is the colour of our soul, when are we going to die and what quote best encapsulates our philosophy. Some take it to heart; others have a good laugh like I did when one of these tests revealed that my real profession was that of a ballet dancer!
Today, however, I came across one that showed me my word for 2017. I saw that another friend’s word was health and of course became curious. My word for 2k17 is LOVE.
This brought forward two thoughts:
One was first Corinthians 13 and the other was a story that I have often referenced in my lifetime by Stephen R. Covey found in the beloved The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People. Here’s the excerpt:
“My wife and I just don’t have the same feelings for each other we used to have. I guess I just don’t love her anymore and she doesn’t love me. What can I do?”
“The feeling isn’t there anymore?” I asked.
“That’s right,” he reaffirmed. “And we have three children we’re really concerned about. What do you suggest?”
“Love her,” I replied.
“I told you, the feeling just isn’t there anymore.”
“You don’t understand. the feeling of love just isn’t there.”
“Then love her. If the feeling isn’t there, that’s a good reason to love her.”
“But how do you love when you don’t love?”
“My friend, love is a verb. Love - the feeling - is a fruit of love, the verb. So love her. Serve her. Sacrifice. Listen to her. Empathise. Appreciate. Affirm her. Are you willing to do that?”
Love is a verb.
First Corinthians 13 tells us that love is patient and kind. Love is never jealous or boastful, rude or selfish. Love doesn’t take offense, never is resentful and love always tells the truth.
So I decided to really embrace LOVE as my word for 2017 and to throw out the challenge to those of you reading my column:
What if we did everything with love? How would our lives and businesses look? How would we feel as we went to work daily with the intention of bringing love to our work?
Can we be more patient with that co-worker who perhaps is not as quick in mastering the process? Or the customer who is long-winded and wastes our time with information we really don’t need? Can we exercise patience in our own progress? Not getting “there” fast enough. Can we be more compassionate, knowing that once we reset our intention that we will reap the benefits of our efforts eventually?
What if we approached what we did without the shallow aim of trying to look good or score brownie points? What if we just did our best because doing our best made US feel good?
What if we listened to the feedback instead of rushing to get offended and defend? What if we searched for kernels of truth? Owned the parts we need to take responsibility for and make the necessary changes we need to make?
What if “payback” wasn’t at the top of our agenda? What if we were less resentful and more grateful?
Love is possibility. It is always hopeful and most of all….perseveres. What if you never gave up on you? Began each new day with hope and faith in yourself, and your ideas?
Alain de Botton, modern philosopher and founder of the School of Life shares: “One of the interesting things about success is that we think we know what it means. A lot of the time our ideas about what it would mean to live successfully are not our own. They’re sucked in from other people. And we also suck in messages from everything from the television to advertising to marketing, etcetera. These are hugely powerful forces that define what we want and how we view ourselves. What I want to argue for is not that we should give up on our ideas of success, but that we should make sure that they are our own. We should focus in on our ideas and make sure that we own them, that we’re truly the authors of our own ambitions. Because it’s bad enough not getting what you want, but it’s even worse to have an idea of what it is you want and find out at the end of the journey that it isn’t, in fact, what you wanted all along.”
Let me propose that if you act with love in every area of your life, that you will find the answers you seek and that you will, perhaps for the first time, truly find what you’ve wanted all along!
Giselle Hudson is a Results Coach and Workshop facilitator who teaches people how they can get results in their businesses and lives. If you’re not getting the results you want in your life then it’s time for an audit. For your free report “How to Get Consistent Results in Your Business and Life” (includes a self-audit) send an email to firstname.lastname@example.org